Blissful Holidays to You

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It’s Tuesday evening at Casa Bliss and I am sitting here in the silence. I can hear the humming of my computer, the wind chimes blowing on the porch outside, and my dog giving the occasional sigh in the next room. After spending 45 minutes at the grocery store this afternoon, I am so happy to be here in the silence. No radio, no television, no one. Complete silence and peace.

Thanksgiving is creeping up on us, and we all have thoughts about what to give those we love for the holiday. Well first let’s talk about you. What about You? What are you doing for you this year? I’m not talking about buying yourself a gift. I am asking what you are going to do about your heart, your mind, and making your own personal bliss.

With the bustling and noise of the holidays happening all around us, we can make this time more relaxing and less about giving things, and more about giving our love. When we truly look inside and reflect on what makes us more relaxed and healthy, we are more in tune with those around us and can begin to share those same feelings with them.

Our heart Chakra is the space we store unconditional love, emotions and hurts. Sometimes, when we have been hurt, it becomes blocked. We need to go inside there and pull those hurts out and let them go. The heart Chakra is green, so here is a  meditation for you to being each day beginning today. If you find it hard to do this sitting still, just come back to this; even while you are with family or out shopping and you feel overwhelmed. find a quiet space, if even for a moment. Give it a try.

Sit comfortably on a chair or cushion. Make sure your spine is straight, yet relax your shoulders and keep your chest opened outward. Put you right hand over your heart and leave your other hand open and face up, relaxed on your left knee.   Be aware of your body and make sure you are completely relaxed.  Take a deep breath-in through your nose, out through your nose. Imagine a beautiful bright green light flowing out from your heart, expanding it as you breathe out, imagine making it bigger with each breath you take, and let any negative feelings for anyone you may have, go out with each breath. Let them go.  Now feel your heart beat, and feel the warmth and love beginning to grow there with each breath.  Give yourself all the love you need to fill you up with bliss. Breathe love and forgiveness in, let negativity go with each breath out. Keep your eyes closed and surround yourself with this beautiful green light full of love, forgiveness and bliss. Open your heart. Do this however long you need to, whenever you can.

Some of you may feel as though this is too hard for you, but you can do this anywhere, even with your eyes open. Just breathe. It all starts with your breath and the awareness of that breath.  This is just one of many different ways you can learn to meditate. But it’s a great start, and you will feel better, even if you begin with 30 seconds and work your way up.

Now, you can sit down and make a list of things you can make, do, find, and give for the holidays.  You can always start by recognizing Buy Nothing Day, and then follow up with Small Business Saturday.

If you are going to shop, by all means….shop mindfully. Safe and Blissful Holidays to all of YOU.

Social Media and Spiritual Life

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“Social Media can be very disconcerting for those of us who are trying to wake up and seek a higher existence.”

This is the very reason for my frustration with social media as of late. The above statement, could, believe it or not,  bring up anger, resentment, jealousy, and all kinds of feelings for some. They may look into a statement as being smug or thinking this means we think we may be  better than others. Not at all. We are simply striving to be the best person we can be. But some may read into our words, thinking we are saying something we are not.

We all read things differently when they are typed or written than we do in person. Of course! If you are unable to see someone’s expressions and body language, this false perception based on our mood or how we might perceive it, can stir up unpleasant feelings for some who are already feeling down. Sad, but so true. I have seen this happen all too often. With this being a component of the social media conversation, we really have a hard time being mindful of our posts, which I am beginning to see causing a plethora of miscommunications between  a lot of us. We have to find a way to make this work. We are inevitably evolving in our technological communications.

So, how do we protect ourselves from these feelings and issues without seemingly coming off as snobby or careless, or unloving? It’s very hard as spiritual beings to decide how to do this. Of course, there’s also this -Not everyone wants to be a spiritual being. Not everyone wants to hear about spirituality or what others have to say about it.

There is also the aspect of reassuring our personal space. Most of us like to keep our personal life just that – personal. If you look at your friends list right now, you may, like me, have thousands of friends on your social media whom you don’t know very well. Some, you have had conversations with in real life. Others, you haven’t even met, so you less than likely have any personal interaction with them. Believe it or not, you may be safer with them. It all depends on your personal history with each person, and how and why you choose a particular form of social media for communicating.

I am not a person who will share my most personal information with others, (especially my relationship) unless I find it to be spiritually uplifting, or a lesson I may have taken from a current situation, that could assist others going through something similar.  Others like to let it all hang out, and that is okay, again – it’s your personal choice to do so.

What if you are an empath, clairvoyant, psychic, or clairaudient, and you feel overwhelmed by the chatter? You just know from your feelings that something isn’t safe for you, or for others. Then don’t open that can of worms. Listen to your intuition.

So let’s look at this and deconstruct it to suit our individual needs.

There are many ways we can go about making your social media space safe and healthy for us.

1.)  When you have 2,000+ friends, you can always take the time to delete some of them. Some people may get hurt by this, and if they do, simply explain that it isn’t personal, but if they never hit ‘like’ or converse with you, what’s the reason you may be friends on social media and not in real life? Social media isn’t real life.  You know who you interact with on a regular basis, so that’s how to gauge it. If someone asks to be back in your facebook friends, give it another try. Maybe they look to you for guidance or positive input. That’s what we want, is to help others who may need it.

2.)  There is a button you can click on before you make a post on facebook that allows who can see your post. You can even make certain lists and categories to put people in. e.g. -If you like to debate politics, and you know of others that can civilly debate as well, only post for them. It’s okay to place boundaries for yourself and make them for others who aren’t into certain conversations. There’s a reason it’s set up this way. We need to go with the changes and learn to utilize this particular option.

3.)  Don’t post something if you tried once and it didn’t post. That’s pretty much a sign you shouldn’t post it. Take my word on this. It’s a fact. As fate would have it, it usually means something.

4.)  If it isn’t appropriate conversation for everyone, you know who can handle it, or not; keep it between you in chat, unless you just don’t care who might be watching. Think of your family and your career choices for the future. That’s a fact as well. You never know who might be watching. If you don’t care, no sweat. On with the ruckus! But remember who might see it, and remember, if you are a light-worker, you are an example to others.

5.) Don’t discuss things that may cause drama, in any sense. If you think your post may stir up an argument, don’t post it.  Sometimes it’s best to use private message, or chat, or just make a phone call and talk to a close friend. Pay attention to your gut feelings here. It’s best to be as mindful as possible.

6.)  You can un-follow conversations, and people. You don’t have to keep them in your feed. Hover over the arrow to the right of their post,  hit hide all of their posts. It may take a while to do this, but you will feel better when you organize it a bit better. You don’t have to unfriend everyone just to stop seeing their posts. You can un-follow individual posts as well. It just depends. Remember, this is your page.

7.)  Take a break from social media, or limit your time there. This can make a huge difference in your life and head-space. Once you are away for a few days, you realize you need less time there. unless it’s part of your job.

Whatever you choose to do, remember, to be the best person YOU can be and keep the chatter to a minimum. It will make you feel a lot better to know your way around and keep it a safe and happy virtual space for everyone.

Have a happy virtual space day.

Namaste

My Love-Hate Relationship with Facebook

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I  have a love-hate relationship with facebook. It really blows my mind the obviousness of facebook relationships vs real life relationships, and how people make themselves obvious on facebook, just as much or more so than in real life sometimes.

I heard some local D.J.’s discussing the different aspects of facebook and how we choose to use it. Of course I agreed and disagreed with the varying opinions, but one thing is for sure; we all have different reasons why we partake in it, at any given time. Some of us use it as a scrapbook of our lives, or to vent, or to try to keep ourselves on track. But yeah, maybe some people use it for social climbing and/or bragging, to make others think better of us, or just for some attention.

So…why? Why do we care what others think about us? Do we feel we have to? I use to care. It bothered me, and made me feel so sad. I voiced things I shouldn’t have. I was passive aggressive about things I was angry about. I even called people out on facebook, (which is really a bad idea, even if you are right). It’s just a bad place to try to work things out with others. As of late, I have been pulling myself away from all of that, and it feels fucking amazing and freeing. I question whether I even want to keep my profile, but I love posting pictures, knowing they will always be there. That, and looking back on things I posted to watch my own growth.

After going to a party with my husband last night, I realized how much more in tune I have become to what people are thinking and what their intentions are, whether they are even conscious of them or not,  I just know what they are thinking sometimes. This means, I can tell if they are being genuine, vying for attention, or being mean to someone, and yes, even lying or making something up. Not just in their presence, but on facebook as well.  Don’t worry, this isn’t about you. It’s about me. It freaks me the FUCK. OUT.

I love everyone, and I have tried like hell to become as aware as I can of my own words, and actions and reactions as of late. I catch myself in a conversation about someone that just did something really fucked up, and even if I don’t care for their actions, I feel bad for them. They are of course on their own path, and yes, sometimes they fuck up. So do I. So do we all. But that doesn’t mean I should be partaking in conversations about people, and I need to stop it, as of NOW. It seems like I notice doing it with just certain people. WE all need to stop that. It makes me feel uncomfortable, and bad inside. That’s all that matters to me right now. I don’t care what any of you think anymore. This is about me. Yes, that’s what I said. This is ABOUT. ME. My spiritual path, my wayward actions. If you feel bad while reading my own bitch session about me, that’s your problem. I love you, but get over yourself.

You may think I am judging you right now, but I am judging ME. I am angry with myself, for allowing myself to be out of control, careless, and judgmental. I told my husband this morning, I am becoming more aware, and in the chaos of my own thoughts, I use mediation on the weirdest things, and at the strangest times, to take back control of my own misguided thoughts. So, this is what I do. I will be somewhere, catch myself judging what someone is thinking, and it literally makes me feel like I have to go home. It feels like facebook, only in real life.

I am writing this for me, but I am also hoping that maybe people will read it and understand that all of our actions create reactions. Whether we as humans realize it or not, when we alienate people – we create negative situations. When we interrupt them while they are speaking – it removes them from their personal connections and makes them feel alienated and worthless. When we start talking about how important we are, or project our cliquish attitude with our circle of “important” friends, we are leaving people out. I hate it! I literally feel sick when I see it happening. And, whenever I go out in public, it’s inevitably taking place. What to do, except remove myself from the situation? I still don’t know.

It’s absolutely stupid the reasons we humans see one human to be more important or worthy of love and attention than another human. We all put our pants on the same, wipe our ass; piss, shit and inevitably, we all. die. in the end. It seems as though ,what a lot of people strive for, is attention or at the least approval. I understand wanting to be loved, but what about giving everyone our love. Ignoring certain people that would normally talk to in real life just isn’t cool. It’s not cool to do this at all.  It’s hurtful.

This is where facebook comes in. Why? Why do we hit the like button on some posts, and completely ignore other people that we talk to in real life? Why do we have friends that we don’t know, or have never met in real time, yet we try to impress them? Why do we ignore people day to day, yet keep them as friends on our facebook page? It makes me wonder if this isn’t what is creating grave miscommunications and discourse within the human race. Are we watching them and judging them? Yes, I see it and hear about it all the time. I am just listening to what everyone else says in conversation. Remember that. But, I am truly questioning all of this interaction now? How did we evolve into this? Why is social media so important. Why does anyone take facebook at face value? This isn’t real people! Or, is it? I guess it just depends on each individual mindset. We choose to write a note on facebook, or a text, than to pick up the phone and call them. We have a plethora of “friends” on facebook, and these people are free to come here and judge each other, watch each other, talk bad about others, or make fun of things we don’t care for or agree with. We can show everyone the face we want them to see, and not who we really are. We can post things that we feel might help others while helping ourselves, or be a total asshole; but inevitably, why are we really doing all of this? That is what I am asking myself.  Where do I draw the line? Why am I really here? Maybe you think this is stupid, , or maybe you’ve gotten this far into what I am writing here, because you know what I am getting at. You may be struggling with this topic as well.

So, here’s where I’m at with this. I now vow – To take more time for myself, my home, my close friends, and my loved ones, in real life instead of facebook. To take more time to breathe, to meditate and to find more inner peace. To give myself more time to fit those people in that no one cares to talk to. The other socially awkward folks, like myself. I want to get to know them too.  To post more about why I am posting something; or to just make it clear, that it’s really about me, not someone else. To be a more mindful social media poster and a more mindful human being, when it comes to human interactions.

You may think I am a narcissist for posting all these things about me. But guess what. This is about all of US. Because in reality, I am really all of YOU. WE are all the same. Just humans being human. Humans making mistakes. Humans starting all over, every day. What we do and say, is what we cause. and. affect. I just had to remind myself to pay attention, today, and every day.

Thanks for reading.

Drawing Strength

Life has many chapters and many hurdles. None of them are easy to work through, especially on knowing what we are to learn from each one. In the end, isn’t that our ultimate goal? What we take from each experience furthers our spiritual and our life growth. We may be asking ourselves that very question today. Why is this happening to me?  What is the best way for me to deal with this, and what am I supposed to take from it? Or just, a general -WHY?

We all have our own ways of dealing with life issues. Some of you may pray, meditate, exercise, or even medicate. You may go to a therapist to talk it all out, or you may use creative outlets to cope. All of these things help, and whatever works best for you is always advised.  No two people are alike in their journey. I personally use meditation, yoga, and enjoy reading and using music to soothe my hurts. I also love to work with tarot cards. I put them away for some time, but now I am once again delving into the oracles for additional guidance. I decided with both of my decks, I can pick whichever one feels like the right one for that particular day, and meditate on what I might be guided to do.

Today, I chose my Faeries Oracle, shuffled and cut my deck and chose – “Himself”.  I like to read the card, meditate on what I am picking up on from it, and then read the meaning from the oracle book. The first thing I got today from ‘Himself’ was that this had something to do with inner work, and growth.

Once inside the book, I began to read all about the meaning of this beautiful card. My own general interpretation, paired with the true meaning unfolded. I wanted to share it, and my thoughts on it. I’m sure so many of us need to be encouraged by Himself, today.

Card 17 – Himself

Natural Law. Life Force. Magic. Shamanic Power
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This is a shortened version from the book, but I focused on the highlights to bring the most important topics to light.

“Himself understands the many necessary balances of nature. The living bond between all life. He is the great Father, like Earth is the great Mother. He is the energy of balance and grounding. He represents the great circle of life, and death. Beginnings, and endings. 

His energy is channeled through humans to benefit tribe, and family. His family is all of us, human and animal.  Healers channel a balance between his power, and the bright Mother’s nurturing energy. 

Even as our hearts beat within us, we learn to meditate the life force through joyful being and action. Expressing his power through healing and love and trust, we become more like Himself.

Himself speaks of protection, either of the querent, or of someone the querent owes protection to, like a child or an elder. Acceptance of paternal responsibility is important, as are deep and committed relationships. He is the preserver of the natural world and its balances.

Shamanic power may be indicated here, as well as a potential for powerful spiritual healing.

All of us have family, either chosen or by birth. We therefore always have the variety of dynamics that come with family and relationships. They come and go like the circle of life. Beginnings, and endings. Change is not only inevitable, but is always an opportunity for us to learn. To grow and choose our greater path, or to freeze ourselves in confusion, not understanding why or what we are supposed to take from each life lesson.

Today, after getting this message from my reading, I had to meet with an intake nurse for my aging and sick Mother for home healthcare. It gave me strength and patience to deal with the uncertainty, the heartbreak, and the changes that this may bring. I feel blessed to know, that no matter what happens in the future, I can draw strength from those around me that I call family. I can choose to continue to grow spiritually, whatever my beliefs may be. We can all choose to gather strength from our lessons.  We all have the same opportunities to learn from our mistakes, and observe others and learn from them as well. Hopefully, we can all become stronger and learn to not only love ourselves, but channel that love outward for universal consciousness and growth.

The last thing I wanted to share, was nowhere in the book. I picked up on it tonight as I was writing this entry. I was looking at how beautiful this card itself is. The artwork is so beautiful.  My eyes were drawn to his eyes, and how they seemed to look right through me. Then, I also noticed a crown of light on his head. I noticed his crown chakra, his third eye, and his heart chakra all glowing with pure white light. Immediately, I heard the word “awakening” pop into my head. I nearly burst into tears with happiness.  It may sound cliche, but we are in the midst of a mass awakening.  All you have to do is open your eyes, look around, and listen.  Breathe deep, and take it all in. Let the dark parts go. Keep the light glowing within. Open your heart…and GROW.

I hope you are all touched in some way by this entry. If you are, please share it with someone. You never know who you may touch with your positive light.

Raising our Vibrations

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Artwork by ~ Cameron Gray

Raise my vibrations? Sound like a bunch of new age mumbo jumbo to you? You can think that, if you choose to.  Or, you can research and study what we are consciously made up of, and choose to vibrate higher.  It’s really simple.

1. Meditate.
I use to be one of the many people that tell me, “I’ve tried, I just cannot meditate.” I use to believe that. I use to have all kind of thoughts about meditation. I can’t sit still that long. I can’t clear my mind. I don’t have time, etc. It’s a decision. We have to make a conscious decision to take time for ourselves. 10 – 15 minutes is all it takes. Here’s how I began – Guided meditations.
Not only does youtube have all these guided meditations, however, you can put your headphones on and search for binaural beats. These are also free on youtube and very effective for beginning meditation. Please do pay attention to the warnings on these. They work, and you do not need to listen while driving or operating heavy machinery.

2. Be in tune with your body.

You can meditate anytime. It’s a matter of being aware, no matter what you are doing. Listen to your thoughts and reject the negative by replacing them with positive thoughts. Feel your breath. Most of us just take it for granted that we are breathing. Next time you are upset, immediately become aware of the change in your breath. You may notice you are breathing faster, and more shallow. Or, you may be holding your breath. We do this more often than we know. Be aware of your breathing throughout the day. By changing this one habit, we are beginning our path to meditation.

3. Eat healthy

Garbage in, garbage out. This goes for your mind, and your body. Again, just by changing one habit of eating higher vibrational food, (live food, like fruits and vegetables) we change our vibration.

4. Keep positive company

Yes, who we surround ourselves with has a lot to do with our thinking. Stop gossiping, stop talking about people, and start talking about interesting things. This is easier said than done sometimes, but if we catch ourselves doing this, the best thing we can do is either change the subject nicely, or walk away. We don’t have to be mean to say no to these negative conversations. We should also watch what we talk about. repeating negative stories just for the sake of doing so, does not make for positive change. There’s always something good to discuss. It’s just about making the effort. Good luck with this one, but…we’ve got this! Just keep correcting yourself.

5. Watch what you take in.

Again, garbage in, garbage out. I cannot watch violent movies or hear stories about people being hurt in any way. Animals, children, or any human beings depicted in film being hurt, mistreated or killed on  television or in movies, is bad news for our mind. It will stick like glue, and just revisit us, whether we like it or not. It just happens that way. We can talk about television and what it does to our psyche some other time. But…yes, Turn it off whenever possible. Those commercials alone will fry your mind.

6. Love yourself.

Do something nice for yourself every day. This doesn’t make you a narcissist. This makes you mindful. Whether it’s a walk, a nap, or just some reading or quiet time. Take it. 15 minutes will do you good. If you need longer take it. Taking time for ourselves is a healthy and natural part of becoming the best person we can be.

7. Forgive.

Let go of the past hurts and forgive people who have hurt you. This doesn’t mean you have go back to hanging out with them, or allowing them back into your life. You can protect yourself, and still be nice and cordial. Sometimes people are toxic to us, no matter how many times we give them a chance. They are on their own path, and sometimes, all we can do is send them  good thoughts and walk away. Use your instincts on this. It’s an individual decision.

8. Don’t give up

Remember, you are human. Just take a deep breath, and tell yourself what this truly is. Your path. Your path and mine are not identical, nor our we spiritually in the same place,. That’s perfectly alright, and normal. Just be. Just be the best person you can be. Every day.