“Social Media can be very disconcerting for those of us who are trying to wake up and seek a higher existence.”
This is the very reason for my frustration with social media as of late. The above statement, could, believe it or not, bring up anger, resentment, jealousy, and all kinds of feelings for some. They may look into a statement as being smug or thinking this means we think we may be better than others. Not at all. We are simply striving to be the best person we can be. But some may read into our words, thinking we are saying something we are not.
We all read things differently when they are typed or written than we do in person. Of course! If you are unable to see someone’s expressions and body language, this false perception based on our mood or how we might perceive it, can stir up unpleasant feelings for some who are already feeling down. Sad, but so true. I have seen this happen all too often. With this being a component of the social media conversation, we really have a hard time being mindful of our posts, which I am beginning to see causing a plethora of miscommunications between a lot of us. We have to find a way to make this work. We are inevitably evolving in our technological communications.
So, how do we protect ourselves from these feelings and issues without seemingly coming off as snobby or careless, or unloving? It’s very hard as spiritual beings to decide how to do this. Of course, there’s also this -Not everyone wants to be a spiritual being. Not everyone wants to hear about spirituality or what others have to say about it.
There is also the aspect of reassuring our personal space. Most of us like to keep our personal life just that – personal. If you look at your friends list right now, you may, like me, have thousands of friends on your social media whom you don’t know very well. Some, you have had conversations with in real life. Others, you haven’t even met, so you less than likely have any personal interaction with them. Believe it or not, you may be safer with them. It all depends on your personal history with each person, and how and why you choose a particular form of social media for communicating.
I am not a person who will share my most personal information with others, (especially my relationship) unless I find it to be spiritually uplifting, or a lesson I may have taken from a current situation, that could assist others going through something similar. Others like to let it all hang out, and that is okay, again – it’s your personal choice to do so.
What if you are an empath, clairvoyant, psychic, or clairaudient, and you feel overwhelmed by the chatter? You just know from your feelings that something isn’t safe for you, or for others. Then don’t open that can of worms. Listen to your intuition.
So let’s look at this and deconstruct it to suit our individual needs.
There are many ways we can go about making your social media space safe and healthy for us.
1.) When you have 2,000+ friends, you can always take the time to delete some of them. Some people may get hurt by this, and if they do, simply explain that it isn’t personal, but if they never hit ‘like’ or converse with you, what’s the reason you may be friends on social media and not in real life? Social media isn’t real life. You know who you interact with on a regular basis, so that’s how to gauge it. If someone asks to be back in your facebook friends, give it another try. Maybe they look to you for guidance or positive input. That’s what we want, is to help others who may need it.
2.) There is a button you can click on before you make a post on facebook that allows who can see your post. You can even make certain lists and categories to put people in. e.g. -If you like to debate politics, and you know of others that can civilly debate as well, only post for them. It’s okay to place boundaries for yourself and make them for others who aren’t into certain conversations. There’s a reason it’s set up this way. We need to go with the changes and learn to utilize this particular option.
3.) Don’t post something if you tried once and it didn’t post. That’s pretty much a sign you shouldn’t post it. Take my word on this. It’s a fact. As fate would have it, it usually means something.
4.) If it isn’t appropriate conversation for everyone, you know who can handle it, or not; keep it between you in chat, unless you just don’t care who might be watching. Think of your family and your career choices for the future. That’s a fact as well. You never know who might be watching. If you don’t care, no sweat. On with the ruckus! But remember who might see it, and remember, if you are a light-worker, you are an example to others.
5.) Don’t discuss things that may cause drama, in any sense. If you think your post may stir up an argument, don’t post it. Sometimes it’s best to use private message, or chat, or just make a phone call and talk to a close friend. Pay attention to your gut feelings here. It’s best to be as mindful as possible.
6.) You can un-follow conversations, and people. You don’t have to keep them in your feed. Hover over the arrow to the right of their post, hit hide all of their posts. It may take a while to do this, but you will feel better when you organize it a bit better. You don’t have to unfriend everyone just to stop seeing their posts. You can un-follow individual posts as well. It just depends. Remember, this is your page.
7.) Take a break from social media, or limit your time there. This can make a huge difference in your life and head-space. Once you are away for a few days, you realize you need less time there. unless it’s part of your job.
Whatever you choose to do, remember, to be the best person YOU can be and keep the chatter to a minimum. It will make you feel a lot better to know your way around and keep it a safe and happy virtual space for everyone.
Have a happy virtual space day.